Aren't you divorced and jobless? Glass houses and all that...
Nah, I'm slim - and happy.
Big difference.
You have to laugh at some Irish people's notions about everyday life events. 99% of them think that any and every divorce means misery and pain. They can't get their heads around the notion that up here we don't see things that way. Not every divorce is down to nasty or violent relationships. Sometimes we find ourselves realizing that life would be better for both of us if we set each other free. It doesn't mean we'll be enemies, or never see each other again, or that the person you just separated from must be avoided and ignored permanently.
That's just so childish and immature.
I had a great marriage, we both did. Then we decided after twelve years to let each other go. We celebrated it with a three day cruise of fun and passion. Then we came home and got on with our lives.
Seems to me that the Irish are just about the dimmest and most short-sighted little gobshites in the entire EU zone. Between religion fucking them up as children through a wasted life of drink and drugs, failed marriages elicit an image of some shitty little housing estate couple on the dole and drinking themselves into oblivion. The kids gone feral through neglect. The neighbourhood filthy with garbage everywhere and burned out stolen cars on every other street corner.
But thankfully life isn't like that up here. I still get the postcards at Christmas and on vacation from the parents. I still meet my ex for dinner once in a while. We're in touch and available to each other should the need arise. We don't hate each other, why would we? Where do you get that notion from?
Immaturity and irresponsibility, your point of view is riddled with flaws.
You need to grow up, get yourself any kind of life.
If your past experiences led you to believe you have to act as though you now hate the person you loved until recently, then life isn't going to be too much fun for you. I came into this world alone. And I ventured out alone too. Met the girl of my dreams and she met me the same. We had over a decade of happiness together. Why stay together if the sheen's dulled slightly? I want to enjoy my life. I want and need to be free to do the things I love the most: travel, study, create, be alone with my thoughts, write the chapters of my book, have new and interesting experiences (
it is after all a candy shop up here if you're tall, dark, and handsome) but to always return to myself, my space, my things done in my way. She too is also very happy with her life, she's much younger than me, so letting her go was the right thing to do. I'm guessing that that's the part that freaks you out the most?
Being left - dumped?
Not I.
I took my ex by the hand and we sailed the Baltic Sea to the old ports and had a wonderful, happy, and very moving last goodbye to us as a couple. The we went back to our own lives. Does that scare you too? Perhaps your childhood experiences were mostly negative? Checked your self esteem lately? Or do you measure your life events depending on how others perceive them? Your partner (if you have one) isn't an anchor for you to cling to. He/she is a person in his/her/its own right - and is entitled to have all the experiences he/she/it wants.
Tying your partner to the chair isn't a healthy relationship in any way. It's a waste of yours and their lives. Needing someone so much that you can't let them alone for ten minutes without falling apart isn't very healthy either. Being afraid of being alone isn't brave, it's cowardly. Hanging on to a failed relationship isn't brave or strong - it's weak and revolting.
Knowing how to preserve what will become a lifetime of friendship - even after a routine divorce - shows kindness, understanding, and acceptance. All strong traits in any male or female. Your point of view (while intended to hurt) makes me think that you're of the weaker character type: needy, insecure, whiny, clinging and overbearing, afraid to be alone. You seem to have the need for someone else to be your foundation. But you can't build your life on top of someone else's and expect either of you to be happy.
So by all means - try to hurt me - see if you can.
Because it hardly matters to me; it only cements my perceptions: that you're not a man, you're a parasite.
Yes, I'm single. Yes, I live alone. Yes, I have ladies, but no - I don't want to marry again, not even live with someone again. I like it like this: surrounded by my instruments, my art studio, my work, my books and my drum-sets in the lounge, guitars and horns, scattered everywhere and ready to be played the moment I feel like it. I don't have to accommodate another person's lifestyle or wishes, I do it my way. It doesn't frighten me, because I'm happy - a loner, like I've always been. So if you think your snide comment means anything to me, then I'll tell you this:
I know how you think, how you feel.
You're a weakling, and you know if you found yourself in my position, then you'd do the only thing you know how to do. Give up and go home to Ireland. Curl up in a ball and die. Like most Irish 'men' I know. Weak, scared, dependent, a drone, oblivious to the various and delectable experiences life has to offer. So tonight when you lay down beside he/she/it, remind yourself that the heifer lying beside you is the same heifer you'll awaken to for the rest of your life. Until you die or they do. Even then you'll still be lost and casting about.
The typical Irish man - the same breed I left far behind me decades ago.
Publish my posts you coward.
And I bet that's exactly how you speak to your significant other - and they to you.
No wonder you're so fucking angry.
And dumb.